What's really going on when we're in a funk is that we're feeling sorry for ourselves. There's probably some very understandable reason for this. But we're still feeling sorry for ourselves and that's no good. So instead of concerning ourselves with however we've been wronged, the best thing to do is to look at what we can do to meet our own needs. And self-care is a great place to start.
If you're in a funk, it's possible you've started letting your self-care slip. Long nails? Need a hair cut? Need some new clothes? Missing the occasional shower? These are self-care slip ups and good funk indicators. Start by fixing these type of things. If you are doing these things and still feeling funky, take it to the next level. Is your job meeting your needs? Is home life satisfying? Is your mental health good? You can keep going up level like this until you get to a point where you can say, "No. All my needs are met well enough. That's not the problem." If you get to this point, it can be a bit frustrating. You probably feel like you're taking your responsibility and things still aren't working. That's a good time to remember the Black Elk quote:
"You have noticed that the truth comes into this world with two faces. One is sad with suffering, and the other laughs; but it is the same face, laughing or weeping. When people are already in despair, maybe the laughing face is better for them; and when they feel too good and are too sure of being safe, maybe the weeping face is better for them to see."If you're in a funk, you probably think you are despairing and you need the laughing face. But I would say to you that you may very well need the weeping face. Consider ways of interacting with people who are suffering intensely, such as serving at a soup kitchen. Seeing their suffering first-hand may help you with your funk, not to mention the good it will do for them to see that you care about, and can connect with, their suffering.
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