"That familiar ring"

"Kathi says a lot of things and it all has that familiar ring."  -J Church, Kathi

"That familiar ring."  The sound of a person arguing without hearing.  Arguing because they have an agenda, not because they want to find the truth.  Why do people have agendas?  Because their emotions are a mess and they are feeling pushed by them.  The next time you hear that familiar ring, see if you can stop arguing with the person and just look for the pressure behind their words.  It will be there.  And if you can identify it in others, you'll be closer to being able to see it in yourself.  And that's when you will have the ability to address it head-on, instead of just putting it out there on other people.  All you (or they!) need to do is express your emotions.  That releases the pressure.  Then you can argue in pursuit of the truth, instead of making some ridiculous, irrelevant point about something that nobody cares about.